Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Tears in Heaven.

 This isn't the post I intended to write today but I have been thinking about the subject for the last few days. It all started as I was looking through all the old photos at my Mum's. So many people are gone out of our lives.
 I realize it is inevitable as everyone has to pass on sometime but it seems like the last 10 years have been particularly bad. I have a cousin Elizabeth who has been battling cancer for 8 years. She just turned 38 a few weeks ago. We got word on the weekend that she has taken a turn for the worst.
 When we were visiting in St Catharines last month we found out her cancer has returned and nothing can be done for her. She has a 6 year old daughter. I remember Elizabeth at our wedding. I have a very large extended family (my Dad as 9 brothers and sisters) and we invited everyone to come. Elizabeth was so excited to be at our wedding as it was her first. We are all heartbroken because it does not look like she will be alive at Christmas.
 I have 2 other cousins and 2 aunts dealing with cancer at this time too. I also have a couple of childhood friends going through this hell too.
Life is too darn short! Your life can change in a blink of an eye. When Chuck and I were first married he was away doing his military training and I stayed in our hometown waiting for him. He was driving home one weekend and drove right threw a tornado in Barrie, Ontario. We heard all about it on the news and we knew Chuck was driving home at that time. This of course was before cell phones (1985). That was the longest night of my life. It took him 6 hours to get home. I remember hearing our car coming down the street. It was about 2:00 a.m and we had loud mufflers at that time. I ran out on the porch, Chuck roared up the driveway and flung himself  out of the car. We hugged for so long. I still cry when I think about it!

Sorry this isn't a happy post but this is what has been on my mind for the last few days.

Take care and hug someone you love today!
Robin

14 comments:

  1. A lovely post...brought a tear to my eye. My mum died in 1997 after suffering with cancer for a year and a half. Life does take a turn and you never know what is ahead. I get sad when I think about the loss of my parents but in their spirit I try to remember the happy times and forge ahead. It's hard sometimes and there are tears, but my mum used to say that she was still alive if we remembered her...

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    1. Hi Ronna, I am so sorry about your parents. I realize we are very blessed to still have my Mum, Chuck having lost both of his parents 20 years ago. I too still have bad days missing my Dad so much. Take care.

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  2. Robin, what a sad but sweet post. You've made me cry too, but that's okay. Most of us have dealt with these same problems and feelings. 38 is way too young to die and to leave a 6 year old daughter. How sad. The story of Chuck driving home brought back memories of my military husband many years ago and my waiting for him to come home. I love too what Ronna said, "that she was still alive if we remembered her".

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    1. Hi Henny, I still think of Elizabeth as a young girl so it is so hard for to wrap my head around the idea that she won't be here for Christmas. Take care.

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  3. Robin, I'm so sorry your cousin isn't expected to live until Christmas. Thirty-eight is so terribly young, but it's sad and impossibly difficult at any age.

    My mom used to say the same thing (maybe most mothers do?), that as long as we remember the person (Being), they're still alive. Meaning alive in our hearts.

    Never apologize for a "sad" post. It's life. And life really can suck sometimes, if you'll pardon the expression.

    Of course the older WE get, the more sickness and death surrounds us, until we, in our time, follow suit.

    That, too, is life.

    Sending you universal Light, with purrs from the boys. Peace to you today and always.

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    1. Hi Kim, thank you for all your kind words. They mean so much to me.
      As you know my Mum is not at all sentimental so the only expression I remember her saying lately is "Getting old is the pits!" I guess that covers it!
      Take care and talk soon.

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  4. So sorry to hear of all the lose in your family. It is certainly something that we just can't understand the why of it.

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    1. Hi Karen, thanks for your words. I appreciate it very much.
      Have a great evening.

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  5. I'm sorry that so many people in your circle of family/friends that are not doing well. As Kim so aptly put it, as we get older more sickness and death surround us. I cannot imagine the sadness your cousin must feel to have to leave her little one. Life is just so hard at times.

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    1. Hi G.M. thanks for your lovely words. It has been a tough ten years for our family. Hope you have a great week.

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  6. Oh my, my heart so goes out to you. It just doesn't seem fair at all. My heart is breaking. 38 is much too young.........sending prayers that God gives you strength in this difficult time (((hugs)))))

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    1. Hi Caren, thanks for your kind words. Thirty eight is way too young to die.

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  7. Cancer is the real b------ of our times. It doesn't seem to restrict its attacks even to the older people - not that that would be any better - but 38 years old? There are times when unfairness becomes sickeningly excessive. A friend of mine died of lymphoma in January; initially it was thought she beat it, but it came and nothing could be done. A dirty trick. She was in her mid-fifties, but young enough to have seen great-grandchildren in a couple of decades. My sympathies and best wishes to your friend and her family.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words John. It certainly isn't fair! I am so sorry about your friends passing in January. Chuck's Mom battled lymphoma too and passed away at 55.
      Take care.

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